What is happiness?
I’m old enough to ask myself that question, but not so old that I don’t care what the answer is.
Happiness. We’re tearing our hair out to try to find a definition of it.
A lot of people thing happiness is being rich or important. And, researchers just love to tell us, that money doesn’t buy happiness. [I know what you’re thinking, how much do researchers make?]
Is it joy? People will tell you that it isn’t, that joy is a fleeting emotion, a moment of happiness, which is always welcome, mind you.
And then what about pleasure, huh?
Oh, yes, that’s easy, everybody knows what that is, but there again it doesn’t last. But is happiness not the sum total of lots of small joys and pleasures, huh?
Everything in this world is going up. And happiness is going down…
Why? Maybe because… many people see happiness only in their future!
See also: 20 hints for a happy life
How many of us, I wonder, can recall that childhood moment when we experienced happiness as a state of being.
That single moment of untarnished joy. That moment when everything in our world, inside and out was alright. Everything was alright.
But now we’ve become a colony of adults and everything is all wrong. All the time!
It’s as if we were on a quest to get it back.
“The basic mistake people make is to think that happiness is the goal!”
Happiness is a different thing altogether. If you try to achieve it, you have every chance of failing. And besides, how would you ever know that you’d achieved it?
Of course one can’t blame people, especially unhappy people, for wanting to be happier and setting themselves goals in order to try to escape from their unhappiness.
And yet the more we focus on our own personal happiness, the more it is useless. In fact, it’s only when we are otherwise engaged, you know, focused on, absorbed , inspired, communicating, discovering, learning dancing, for heavens sake that we experience happiness as a by product, a side effect.
“Happiness often comes when least expected.”
We should concern ourselves not so much with the pursuit of happiness, but with the happiness of a pursuit.
Remember: Fear is an impediment to happiness,and also – avoiding unhappiness is not the road to happiness.
“Be vary wary of people who declare that they’re going to create heaven on earth, they almost invariably create hell.”